the First Funeral of my New Year

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My new son-in-law’s friend died in a speed related motorcycle incident on New Year’s Night of 2016.

His body was found six hours later on New Year’s Day in the median on the Mopac.  His funeral is today.  RIP Marcus Easley of Austin, TX.  Age 31.

This is the second speed related motorcycle fatalities amongst our friends on January 1st.   Two years ago we lost Christian in this way.

Was alcohol a factor?  I do not know.  All I heard about regarding both of these fatalities is speed was cited as the factor.

My heart grieves for my son-in-law.  He is taking this hard.  My heart grieved for Christian.  My daughter took his death hard.  This is the case with all fatalities.  The grieving is always harder when the person is a close friend.   The grieving is impossible when the person is family.

I will continue to volunteer for The X-Man Foundation.  If you don’t know ‘the Story of X’ click here.

Meeting Valetta and Xzavier is a profound moment in any driver’s life.  It is a moment that can turn a driver away from a determined course of distracted driving.

Xzavier Davis-Bilbo appeared on the Katie Couric Show in New York.

You can donate to The X-Man Foundation by emailing Valetta Bradford directly at

Just ask her to send over a Paypal link.  The X-Man Foundation is a federally recognized non-profit under Section 501 (3) (c).

We are vigilant about getting these messages out to your friends and family.  That’s why we ask you all to share these messages on your own timelines.  It is time we all start talking about these road related deaths with each other to keep each other sharp when we venture out on the roads and for God’s sake put those phones away.  LL   ‘Don’t text 4 X’




that Lady’s New Year Resolution

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Happy New Year Ya’ll.

I started the year 2015 out weighing in somewhere around 250 lbs.

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I began eliminating the seven high intolerant food groups from my life on April 8th.  

I am now saying good-bye to 2015 weighing in at 188 lbs.

Okay, fat is disfiguring.  I am not a selfie queen and the reason for that is because I am so fat.  I have not conquered my own fat.  I’m facing a brave new year so here is a pool pic of me at my top weight of 250 lbs. Yikes.


And when I achieve my goal weight of 136 lbs, I will begin my life living in a yellow bikini.  Maybe my claim to fame will be ‘that Lady in the yellow bikini’.

‘Keep Austin Weird, ya’ll’

Happy New Year from that Lady down in Texas and if any of you need some weight loss coaching, just shoot me a comment.  I’m here for you.

‘Don’t text 4 X’

My pool weight is 250 lbs and my weight in the gown is 192 lbs. (See below).  I’ll post my progress as the year goes on.  Happy New Year’s Ya’ll.

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Happy New Year Everyone!

Xzavier and Valetta Bradford appear on CBS

Spokeswoman Valetta Bradford and son Xzavier Davis-Bilbo are advocates against distracted driving with an emphasis on texting

Xzavier Davis-Bilbo is getting out there and advocating for your attention.  Xzavier is important.  He and his mom Valetta Bradford have overcome many obstacles to get this far.

Click here for a cliff notes view of their journey, struggles, and triumphs.

We need your help to get this advocacy spreading.  You have to have the courage to tell your loved ones to put the phones away while behind the wheel.  Distracted driving is 100% preventable.

Watch Xzavier and Valetta on CBS at this link.

We have a long way to go to achieve that lofty goal.  Valetta and Xzavier are in this fight.  They have made it their goal to appear to as many young and future drivers as they can.

You can help.  Post this article on your timelines.  Put the phones away when you drive.  Set a good example.  Talk to all of the drivers in your life.

Some studies have come out stating that people have psychological attachments to their social medias on these hand-held devices.  It’s really out of hand.  This is happening in alarming numbers.

Everyone I know uses their cell phones from behind the wheel.  Everyone. Distracted driving is deadly.  Everyone I know flirts with this kind of danger.  Innocent victims will suffer because of all of this.

Spokeswoman Valetta Bradford, Xzavier Davis-Bilbo, Aurie Parris

To help Valetta Bradford and Xzavier continue on in this work, please email Valetta directly and ask her to send you a PayPal page.

Thank you,

that Lady down in Texas


Chandler Gerber rips that Lady a new one.

This is the Amish Buggy that Chandler Gerber mowed down. How the hell you can't see a horse on a highway, I don't know

Here is a copy and paste of the message Chandler Gerber left in my in-box today.

Dear ‘That lady down in Texas’,
I unintentionally found out who you are by seeing a post on Facebook this morning. This is only the second time I’ve ever responded to somebody ripping me. A couple years ago I was on with Katie Couric and you said “it really chapped your a** that Valetta had to share the stage with me, a murderer. I have spoken with Valetta and her family several times and I speak about them in my upcoming book. They are great people, along with the others who appeared in From One Second to the Next. I know that only a few people read what you write, but even so, why would you bash on me for raising awareness with my story? Why not be thankful that I was able to show people why they shouldn’t text and drive? Why not support my message instead of calling me a murderer? I’ve done more good for the cause of fighting against distracted driving than you ever will. Why would you shoot at a fellow soldier in this fight? I don’t get it. I just don’t get it. Ill just send you a message from ‘That guy up in Indiana’: stop telling the four people who read your blog how high of an i.q. you have, stop ripping on people who are more successful than you, and stop talking about things and people that you know nothing about.

And here is my response to Chandler Gerber and the other four people who read my blog;

You sir, are a sociopath.  You mowed down an Amish buggy and after viewing the documentary you were in,  your clammy appearance and your arrogant stance about this vehicular manslaughter sickened me to the same level Bruce Jenner and his callous reaction to killing Kim Howe did.  Your message to me this morning is all the proof I need to know how effective my work is because I got a reaction from you.  Ha ha I win.

If you want to measure success by killing innocent people and not to beat a dead horse, but you killed their horse too.  You take the cake buster.

This is the Amish Buggy Gerber Chandler mowed down on a highway.  How the hell you can't see a horse on a highway I don't know

The kicker is when you go to their farm with your camera crew.

That was more than I could take.  Now, I do not know why people react the way they do to other people.  I can only speak for myself.  When I said it sickened me to see your story in the documentary Valetta Bradford and her family was in, then it sickened me to see your story in the documentary Valetta Bradford and her family was in.

Werner Herzog did a brilliant job in the documentary, I’ll give him that.  I have watched the documentary a few hundred times and when your part comes on, I fast forward it.

Some people find Gilbert Godfry annoying, but I think he is hilarious

Some people cringe when they hear the voice of Gilbert Godfry.  I think all that is hilarious.  Gilbert Godfry’s voice does not bother me.

Some people cringe from Kenya West.  I know I do not like any of the Kardashians.  I never have.  It has to do with the arrogance in which they carry themselves.  When Kenya West demanded everyone stand up during his concert and humiliated a man in a wheelchair in the process I wrote about him too, specifically for the so-called four readers of my Lady blog.

The fact is, I do have a high IQ and I was smart enough to never use a hand held device while behind the wheel.  I only mentioned my IQ in my latest diet blog, so you’ve been investigating me.  You didn’t hack into my WordPress account or you would know how many views my work has had.

My webpage views are in the thousands because I am a hard worker. I am an educated woman so I know about marketing, social media strategies, but more importantly I am a writer who has no blood on her hands.

Speaking of which, did you ask permission from Valetta to use ‘the Story of X’ in your book.  Why you still riding on the coat tails of the victims of distracted driving?  You sir, are on the other side of the coin.  Just because you appeared with someone a couple of years ago does not a permanent easement make.

Your modicum of success is an illusion.  Werner Herzog featured you to show the other side of this deadly epidemic.  It’s a cause I am very passionate about and I praise everyone who is an innocent that takes up the banner.  As for me, I am only in this fight to promote this family.  I do not promote myself, thus the anonymity of that Lady down in Texas   I never fooled around with Facebook before I contacted Valetta to give her a hand in her campaign.  If and when Valetta asks me to step down, I will close my Facebook page.  I am a volunteer.  My work is all behind the scenes stuff.  I have never nor do I propose to ever profit from any distracted driving campaign.  Unlike you.  Everything about you makes me cringe.

I am a hard worker.  I have spent hundreds of hours writing articles, building WordPress websites, tagging photographs, maintaining websites, linking websites, composing fundraisers, contacting potential sponsors etc., etc.

That is my contribution to this fight and unless called upon to defend my stance, I do not go about bragging about this.  I did mention a couple of times that thanks to me the search engines have now buried the racist websites I found during my initial search to find this spokeswoman, this mom that my heart went out to because a distracted driver mowed her son down in the confounds of a school crosswalk.

Had I never stumbled across that racist website spewing nonsense, I would have never began to build even one single website, so we all have our place and now I have come to the part where I put you in your place – oh ye careless taker of life.

Chandler Gerber sent me this picture this morning with a warnng to stop talking about his murdersYou should be locked up for the lives you took.  So should Bruce Jenner. So should that bitch who struck Xzavier and everyone else not watching the road for whatever reason.  Driving is a privilege.

Do not censor me.  The internet is not policed.  I enjoy my rights to freedom of speech and will speak how I really feel on a variety of topics.  There is nothing you can do about it.  Not everyone is going to love you.  Not everyone is going to stroke your enormous ego.  You really should spend some money on a publicist to censor you because you are beyond stupid in your statements this morning.

Geez.  Well the world is filled with the arrogance of man.  You got more than a strong dose of that.  Good luck exploiting the victims of distracted driving with your book.

Your attempt to rip me a new one failed miserably.  I’ll turn the tables on you and tell you ‘You don’t know me’.


that Lady down in Texas

Ps.  If Valetta feels the need to sue you for profiting off of her son’s story, I’ll be on the team that rakes you over the coals.

Xzavier is fighting for his life again at Children’s in Milwaukee

Xzavier Davis-Bilbo is back at Children's in Milwaukee fighting for his life.

Xzavier Davis-Bilbo was paralyzed five years ago at the hands of a distracted driver who was texting.  Xzavier is ten years old and he has had ten hospitalizations.

Xzavier Davis-Bilbo is fighting for his life again at Children's in Milwaukee

Xzavier also lost his left lung in the original trauma.  The surgeons told his mom Valetta Bradford that the only thing that saved her son’s life was the metal scooter that took most of the brunt of the assault of the vehicle that drug him from his older sister’s embrace and down the road twenty yards.  Valetta later told me that they found a second set of tire tracks on his legs.

Click here for the bulleted list of their journey.

And Xzavier survived to become an advocate against distracted driving with an emphasis on texting.

Xzavier Davis-Bilbo appeared on the Katie Couric Show in New York.

His accomplishments include appearances made for the ‘It Can Wait’ campaign.

The PSA;

The documentary ‘From One Second to the Next’

Last year Mayor Tom Barrett declared ‘Xzavier Day’ for his works on;

the ‘It Can Wait’ and the ‘Don’t text 4 X’ campaigns.

Xzavier traveled to Hollywood to attend the red carpet premiere of the documentary by legendary Werner Herzog.  The documentary was inspired by Valetta Bradford.  Mr. Herzog had been hired only to film the PSA and when he asked the folks at AT&T, Sprint, and Verizon to produce the documentary they didn’t hesitate.

We are asking for donations at this time of crisis while Xzavier is hospitalized, of course a lot of extra expenses are going to crop up like the cost of eating meals out, parking fees, gas money, on top of all the regular expenses.

in Valetta’s case, her regular expenses include stocking up on supplies for Xzavier.  He is cared for at home because Valetta wants her son to live as normal a life as she can make it.

Valetta campaigns because she never wants what happened to Xzavier to ever happen to another child.

At the time of this writing, Valetta is holding vigil at Xzavier’s bedside.  She sent out a post that said she can’t access her in box from the ICU.  Valetta has approved this gofundme fundraiser

Or you can email Valetta at

You’ll have to ask Valetta to send you a Paypal link.

Or you can donate in person at any Educator’s Credit Union nationwide.  Thank you for prayers and donations, that Lady down in Texas.

The X-Man Foundation is a federally recognized non-profit organized under section 501 (c)(3).

Mom of the Year! Valetta Bradford

Prom night for Aurie Parris. Mom Valetta Bradford and brother Xzavier Davis-Bilbo are advocates against distracted driving with an emphasis on texting

This Sunday I will be thinking about my friend Valetta Bradford.  We’ve never met and we may never get the circumstances to meet seeing as I’m down here in Texas and Valetta lives up by the Great Lakes, but she holds a seat in my heart as the Mom of the Year!

Tonight as I write this, Valetta is enjoying the fruits of her labor sending her daughter off to her prom.  That’s a milestone.

Prom night for Aurie Parris.  'Don't text 4 X'

Congratulations from Texas, ya’ll.

Valetta Bradford takes excellent care of her family and goes above and beyond every single day.  For most of us moms, that’s enough.

For Valetta, it is not.

Valetta and her son Xzavier make public appearances on television and radio, in front of congregations at high schools, driving schools, and colleges.  Really any event that provides a platform for the ‘Don’t text 4 X’ campaign will get Valetta and Xzavier out in front of young and future drivers anywhere.

So I lift my cup to you Spokeswoman Valetta Bradford and toast your accomplishments and ask that you are blessed and that all your efforts bear fruit.  Salud.

Happy Mother’s Day 2015

To donate to the ‘Don’t text 4 X’ campaign email Valetta directly at

Ask her to send over a PayPal link.  God bless.