What cause was ever promoted without the fire of personal agitation? Frances Guizot wrote of this more than a hundred years ago in his estimation of Shakespeare and how the nations of France and England reacted by taking this art to a national level.
Few would understand the language of his time, so I shall attempt to sum it up in my own words. If one wants to promote art or a cause to a national level, then one has to also appeal to the common man (and woman). You have to reach this national audience in ways that speak to the individual, on an individual level in contemporary language and art.
The cause I have dedicated the rest of my life to, is to advocate against distracted driving, one tough nut to crack. Here is why, everyone I know is using a cell phone while they drive. I also know 150 people may die in the nation I reside in at the hands of distracted drivers with cell phones today. They will all certainly be involved in collisions resulting from distracted driving.
I can’t go two miles from my home without seeing someone on the phone behind the wheel of a car.
But that’s not the source of my personal agitation. In 1989 a distracted driver ran a stop sign on the corner of the church where she worked at a daycare center. She struck my Bonneville, a big ole tank of a car, on the passenger rear end side so hard that tank spun around 3/4′s of a turn.
Afterwards, I was left with four bulging discs in my neck and back.
I had a raging headache for two weeks after the collision.
The driver’s name was Amy Mansfield at the time. This blonde little ditz said “Well officer, I just didn’t see that stop sign.”
Goddammit give me a break. A stop sign is a big red octagonal thing that every driver knows about. She was a cute little thing and she got away with this crime against my person. I have been in excruciating pain for 25 years. Some days are better than others. I manage this pain by just lying down. I tried all that crap the doctors hand out and can’t deal with the side effects. I went the chiropractic way, I tried Rolfing, exercises, aspirin and Tenz units, all of it has been lessons in futility. I have four bulging discs in my neck and back.
Now let me tell you just a bit about how other people prosper from the pain of others. There are lawyers and insurance agents, there are doctors and quacks, there are pharmaceutical companies, physical therapists and prosthetic companies, wheelchair manufacturers, there are body shops and car salesmen, there are cops and robbers, there are car manufacturers and in these times – cell phone manufacturers, there are lobbyists and lawmakers, there are funeral directions and cremators, all of these will take their cut if you are in a collision involving a distracted driver.
That’s why no one balked at the idea of allowing drivers cell phones in the first place. This is big business baby.
And I am just a little lady down in Texas in my little pond and I became interested in Xzavier Davis-Bilbo and his family because when I watched that PSA that ran for one month only in Texas sponsored by the big wigs AT&T, Sprint, and Verizon I knew that family was important beyond what their sponsors would allow.
I went on-line to find them but could not, I realized that they were being used. I had to dig for hours in that damnable ‘It Can Wait’ website. I took the pledge and for the record, I have never used a cell phone while behind the wheel, nor would I ever consider such a callous action. Valetta Bradford and Xzavier Davis-Bilbo did not have an internet presence. Why didn’t AT&T and the others set them up with a donate button? That was my first question because I wanted to donate a dollar to their campaign. (The tagline to this blog is I wanted to donate a dollar).
Had these companies promoted this family like they deserved to be promoted, their campaign would have reached national exposure by now. If everyone that has been touched by the struggles this family has been through over a freaking text message, and donated a dollar, Valetta wouldn’t have to struggle to care for her son in this condition or even to hang onto her house that is in a high crime neighborhood. This family has been robbed a couple of times since I have known them.
They should be somewhere safe in a gated community by now. Why does this woman have to wait for the relief she is owed? Did you know that Valetta and Xzavier are aware of all of the critical and racist remarks that have been linked to their on-line interviews? Talk about adding insult to injury. Now, that is a direct result of forsaking their privacy to participate in the ‘It Can Wait’ campaign and do you think AT&T, Sprint, and Verizon compensated them for this? No they did not. AT&T, Sprint, and Verizon have ceased making their interviews available and have not promoted their interviews in over a year.
They have been thrown out like yesterday’s news. And it was one of those damn phones they make that put Xzavier in a wheelchair and dependent upon a respirator.
Now I know you are saying, ‘Hey Lady, don’t you think it was that driver’s fault that put Xzavier in the chair?’
Yes I do. She is a damn idiot. She crossed out of her lane and struck Xzavier in the confounds of a school crosswalk. The text that she was composing at the time read ‘I’m on my way’.
The State of Wisconsin passed a bill in May of 2010, (Xzavier was struck in October of 2010), to punish distracted drivers with a little bit of a heftier fine but when this driver struck Xzavier she was fined only $160 dollars.
The miniscule insurance that she carried netted Valetta only $25K dollars and that was soaked up by installing the wheelchair lift to the house and one for a second hand van Valetta had to buy and she replumbed her house to accommodate Xzavier’s bathing needs. Since then the wheelchair lift to the van failed before the van finally went kapoot and the wheelchair lift to the house was installed improperly and someone had to hold on to Xzavier every time he used it in case he was going to fall out.
This all adds to my agitation because I can feel outside of myself. Thank God for my pain because that means I am not paralyzed. I can use my hands to type these messages for you and launch these petitions to try and get some national recognition for the campaign I am so passionate about ‘Don’t text 4 X’.
This is all bigger than myself, the family of Xzavier, all of the people who work for and against relieving our roads of distracted drivers. This is about you and your loved ones.
Thank you if you hit the share button on this article, nobody ever does, and if you would like to make a donation to the campaign of Xzavier Davis-Bilbo, here is that link;
Please sign our petition to get Xzavier and his campaign ‘Don’t text 4 X’ to the White House for Christmas.
‘Xzavier Day’ was an important event!
Xzavier Davis-Bilbo received a Citation from the State of Wisconsin and a Proclamation from the Mayor of Milwaukee.
We picked up a few extra Facebook friends and possible future advocates in the ‘Don’t text 4 X’ campaign.
The fundraiser after event expenses was hardly worth the effort it took but that is not why Spokeswoman Valetta Bradford hosts this event every year on or near the anniversary of her son’s serious injuries. Valetta says she never wants anything like this to happen to another child. She understands how important her son is in this fight to stop the senseless injuries and fatalities linked to distracted driving. I believe the Story of X is the most powerful tool we have at this time to give drivers pause before continuing on in a determined course of distracted driving and we both put an emphasis on the texting aspect,
These pictures of X blew me away. This photograph was taken of Xzavier during Mayor Tom Barrett’s address;
A picture says a thousand words and the expression on Xzavier’s face shows he is wise beyond his nine years of age.
Valetta and Xzavier’s next event is another community outreach on October 25th. Click this link below for details;
So a quick recap on things with this family;
- the wheelchair lift is still inoperable
- the van the lift is on finally went kapoot (Valetta says she still drove it on errands when Xzavier’s nurse was on duty)
- this means this mother and son duo have had to resort to public transportation
- taking public transportation cuts down on how many drivers they can take their campaign to
- the funds raised during the event didn’t cover all the expenses of hosting the event
- that means this event was an out of pocket expense for this single mom and advocate working to keep you safer
- Valetta and X will still carry on this campaign because one day the support will come
- It’s just meant to be, I know it, Xzavier Davis-Bilbo is important
- this Lady down in Texas will continue to volunteer for The X-Man Foundation (I do it because I want all of you safe)
- It is a struggle to keep this campaign alive at the end of the day after everyone goes home
- Xzavier remains paralyzed and dependent upon a strict health regimen and a respirator to keep him alive
- Valetta still has to run her household and provide extensive nursing care to her son
- Xzavier has to continue to be a good sport about all of this and he continues to do his very best, he offers his best to us
- It’s about time someone out there will offer their best to Xzavier.
Two days after ‘Xzavier Day’ our new Facebook friend Cindy gave Xzavier the most wonderful gift!
Valetta tells me the new X-Box requires the internet to operate it and she doesn’t have a connection. She runs The X-Man Foundation from her phone. It doesn’t require an internet connection, so if anyone out there knows how to bypass the need for this extra expense so Xzavier can begin playing the 15 games Cindy gave X to go along with the new X-Box, we sure would appreciate it.
Thank you Cindy for giving your very best. I’m so happy for him. He has had to swallow so much disappointment in his short life. This event shored him up to continue on in his fight. His mom does her best to make every single day ‘Xzavier Day’ and the best day she can possibly make for her young son and she also has to worry about where the money is going to come from.
Click here to donate to the ‘Don’t text 4 X’ campaign. 100% of your donations go to the campaign with no overhead. The X-Man Foundation is staffed with volunteers. When you promote this campaign you save lives and you validate the efforts this mother and son duo bring to every driver they can. ‘Don’t text for X’.
And I’m here in Austin, it’s raining and no one answered my requests to skype me in for this most important event of the year.
This lady down in Texas wants to donate a dollar and if everyone of you reading this would just donate one dollar to the ‘Don’t text for X’ campaign we could make these roads safer all around!!!
Mayor Tom Barrett will issue his mayoral proclamation in less than 14 hours from the time of this writing. There has been so much preparation into putting this all together and I’m hoping that this event will first of all make Xzavier’s Day.
Xzavier Davis-Bilbo is being honored for his work in the ‘It Can Wait’ campaign and the ‘Don’t text for X’ campaign.
His mom Valetta Bradford founded The X-Man Foundation to educate drivers away from distractions with an emphasis on texting.
We at The X-Man Foundation consider Xzavier our hero for his bravery in facing his future in the restricted zone. Xzavier is a giant Green Bay Packers Fan and my next project in this campaign is to write every one of the Green Bay Packers inviting him to friend Xzavier with a personal visit and how bout some season passes?
I have learned so much in my own journey volunteering for The X-Man Foundation and we are inviting you to volunteer for The X-Man Foundation or at least to turn those phones off while driving. It’s important. You are important. Xzavier is important.
You can now donate on-line to keep this campaign going. The X-Man Foundation is a federally recognized non-profit and 100% of your donations go to the ‘Don’t text for X’ campaign.
that Lady down in Texas
Volunteer for The X-Man Foundation
Spokeswoman Valetta Bradford is hosting her annual ‘Walk for Awareness’ that she has hosted every year on or near the anniversary of Xzavier’s injuries on October 11, 2014. Meet theme at 10th and North Streets in Milwaukee at 1 p.m. and this event just lasts until 4 p.m. You can meet them or better yet, you can skype in and say hello to Xzavier and his family because this year this event is renamed ‘Xzavier Day’ by proclamation of Mayor Tom Barrett.
Our fundraiser to raise funds for this event was not a performer and I am concerned that Valetta will not have enough capitol to arrange this event befitting an ‘Xzavier Day’. She needs to have a stage and podium for the mayor along with a ramp for Xzavier to get up there with him and they need mikes, speakers, a camera man for our own footage, and it would be nice to have a few big screens on the stage for the people to see them better and some qualified geniuses on hand to post this event live on Youtube and orchestrate other important people skyping in. I’ve reached out to the President, the Governor, mayors in major cities like Austin, Racine, Phoenix, Seattle, New Orleans, Las Vegas, Dallas, and a few others. ‘I’m only one person’ said the Lady down in Texas and I cannot make it to Milwaukee to lend Valetta a hand because I am disabled and although I could endure such a trip I am disabled and living on disability. There’s barely enough budget in this back office of The X-Man Foundation to keep the internet connected.
I know a lot of you are in the same boat and that is why my pleas for a little help in putting this together have been unmet so let me ask you for an experiment, if you are reading this, to donate just one dollar. The tag-line for this website is that this Lady just wants to donate one dollar and you clicked on it anyway, tag you are it!
If everyone who ever got a ticket for using a phone while driving gave Valetta a dollar to help her take care of her son who she has sacrificed everything for, then Valetta would not have to be concerned on how she is going to get down the road a little further and she still cares about getting the word out about how hard this had been on her so that none of you will suffer this journey.
Donate that dollar now. Sorry to be pushy but this is better than me yelling at you in traffic because you did some bonehead maneuver right next to me and I spend thousands of hours putting articles like this out there because I want the day to come when distracted drivers cannot say they didn’t know. ‘Don’t text for X’.
Mayor Tom Barrett of Milwaukee will proclaim October 11th of 2014 ‘Xzavier Day’ for the City of Milwaukee.
I want other venues to host ‘Xzavier Day’ by Skype. You will need skype equipment and a group and your group can send their love to Xzavier and his family live on ‘Xzavier Day!’
We are well into the planning of this event and we have only been able to raise $225 dollars in one month by five people. That’s not much of a party. This is a one time event for a nine year old who has spent almost half of his life paralyzed from the diaphragm down and he now depends on a respirator to breathe and a strict health regimen to keep living because a driver was texting.
And on October 11th Xzavier Davis-Bilbo will be honored for his work in the ‘It Can Wait’ campaign and the ‘Don’t text for X’ campaign by Mayor Tom Barrett and the City of Milwaukee.
You can honor Xzavier too. Xzavier stands for those victims who cannot reach out to you even if he has to stand for them from his wheelchair. Xzavier only has partial use of his hands. His mother quit her managerial position in corporate America to become Xzavier’s primary caretaker. No institution for the son of Spokeswoman Valetta Bradford because Valetta is a boss lady. Read about what this family has overcome at this link:
Maybe next year we can have ‘Valetta Bradford Day!’ She started The X-Man Foundation to educate drivers away from distractions because Valetta believes education is the answer. The X-Man Foundation is a federally recognized non-profit and 100% of your donation goes to this advocacy work of educating drivers about the dangers of distracted driving with an emphasis on texting.
Now Xzavier is a reader but most of all Xzavier is a Green Bay Packers Fan! I am of the opinion that Xzavier should have mounds and mounds of presents on ‘Xzavier Day!’ Anything with a Green Bay Packers logo will become a cherished possession for X. “Games, it’s always games with Xzavier.” his mother Valetta has said.
I would like to see Xzavier get that vintage Nintendo game with a copy of ‘Banjo and Kazzoie’. That would make my day.
You can send your unwrapped gitts to:
PO Box 06061
Milwaukee, WI 53206
And you can donate on-line to make ‘Xzavier Day’ the best day we can possibly make it!
that Lady down in Texas
volunteer for The X-Man Foundation
P.s. Valetta invites you to friend her on Facebook.